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Last Year Ever Review

Mon, 31 Dec 2012 20:52:15 +0100

Often, we carry over goals and ideas into a fresh new year out of guilt or a feeling of failure. We review all of the things we didn't do this year, we shake our heads and ask ourselves "what is wrong with me?" and we promise ourselves we will do better next year.

I am here to present the idea that doing that...

...shockingly...

...won't work.

You will most likely be beating yourself up again next year.

Intead, let's try something new.

Like I have been saying all year, let's pretend that this truly is The Last Year Ever. Imagine the world will indeed end come Friday. Embrace this idea, just for a moment.

With that idea in mind, look back at your life for a moment and ask:

What wonderful things would never have happened if I hadn't been born?

Cliche? Maybe. But it is extraordinary if you really get into it.

Did you rescue a dog and give him/her a wonderful life?

Did you ever truly touch someone with a thoughtful gift?

Have you ever loved someone that didn't feel like they were lovable?

Have you ever given money or donated time to someone else in need?

Think about your job - who has looked you in the eye and given you a meaningful "thank you"?

Has anyone ever told you that you made their day?

Has anyone every told you "that's one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me!"?

Have you started a business, a family, or a friendship that made even ONE person's life better?

Do you have an idea yet of how you have made an impact?

Now imagine you weren't here to do those things, to say those things, to touch those lives. Yes, maybe someone else would pick up your slack. Maybe... or maybe not. Sit for a minute in the knowledge that you have made a difference, just by being you.

Look back on your life, and take a moment to feel peace in the idea that if the world did indeed end on Friday, you have done enough. Imagine you have no more time, and simply be grateful that you had the time you had to do the amazing things you have done.

With THAT energy, we will move into 2013 together. We will create more wonderful impact and meaning. No regret, no obligation, no guilt.

If the world ended on Friday, you have done enough. You are enough.

And I dig you.

Do you suffer from this Pseudo Flaw?

Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:25:17 +0100

So many people are still encouraged (and encouraging others) to be a victim in this way. Are you?
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Is flawless your goal?

Fri, 02 Sep 2011 21:52:10 +0100

Ok, great story - My brother went to a Marriage-strengthening-type weekend. One of the take-aways that I loved was one of the marriage therapists presenting talked about a man who came in complaining about his wife. He told him to write down all of her flaws on one side of the paper. After he was done, the therapist said "OK, now on the other side, write down what flaws you would like to replace those flaws with".

The man stared blankly. "No, you don't understand. I want to get rid of these flaws, not add more."

The therapist then asked "So you want your wife to be flawless, perfect?"

"No, of course not".

"Ok then", he repeated, "she would have to have some flaws then. What would you like those to be?"

You see, we all have flaws. Our partners all of have flaws. The way I see it, though, we are at least fairly adept at working with our current flaws. So why not be grateful you have the ones you have? You have to have some, right?

Well, I thought it was profound anyways ;)

Does EVERYONE have a Unique Purpose?

Wed, 18 May 2011 21:51:54 +0100

It's a question I get often - Do I think everyone has a unique purpose?

"Even...*gasp*...ME?!" you may be thinking.

The short answer is YES.

What people often get stuck on is their perception of the MAGNITUDE of their unique purpose. I have a friend who is a wedding photographer. Some might think that isn't a very BIG purpose. Yet he truly believes that by capturing the true essence of two people in love, he can actually affect the divorce rate and influence the experience of love in the world. Now that is a noble goal! In addition, think about how much more invested people will be in helping him to achieve that goal when he has such a clear and profound purpose, than if he played small and simply mechanically took pictures.

So yes, you do have a unique purpose, a unique spin on something others already do, and a unique way of doing things that the world desperately needs. And the more people we have finding and expressing this unique purpose - well, that's a world I want to live in!

I spend a great deal of time with my clients getting them "tuned in" to their purpose (or "North"), but I want to get you started today - read on!

You are already perfect and unique, as is everyone else (keep that in mind!). Putting words to it just makes YOU believe what your loved ones already know!

First off, let's be clear: you are special. There, I said it! We were all thinking it about you, but we just forget to say it sometimes. You aren't MORE special than anyone else (an important distinction) but you ARE special.

Is that a raised eyebrow I see? Don't believe me?

Let's suspend disbelief for a moment. Are you with me?

I believe your "North" can be found at the intersection of:
1. your skills;
2. your major life challenges and lessons;
3. your passions; and
4. your "causes" (the things that bug you most about the world)

We go over this in great detail in the 90-day mentorship, but I want to give you a few exercises to start this process.

A great way to discover how you are unique is to ASK. I am setting a challenge to you right now to email 5-10 friends, clients, coworkers, and family members and ASK what is so darned unique about you. A great initial question - "If you needed advice in a specific area of your life, what area would I be the first person you thought of?"

Another good question is "What three words would you use to describe me?".

Starting to learn how others see you can be an eye-opener. Start there - learn who you are in others' eyes. You have a purpose. Once you discover it, motivation won't be an issue - you will feel propelled forward as if an invisible force is pulling you. I want this for you, because once you have it, life is truly magical!

Best of luck navigating, my friend!

Kristi Shmyr

Goal Ninja

p.s. if you want to know more about your North, join me on Friday, May 20 at 5:45pm for a FREE one hour talk on the Goal Ninjas System to Goal Getting the Kick Ass Life you Crave! Register by emailing support@goalninjas.com. The talk will be held at Prana Holistic, 10138 121 st Edmonton.

Compliments are Nice!

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:42:26 +0100

We recently finished another really wonderful round of Goal Ninjas Bootcamp to Create the Kick Ass Life you Crave. As always, the experience was amazing. I really, REALLY don't want to sound self-serving here, but man, the feedback I got has been just amazing. Someone actually said I was "the most caring person I think I have ever met", and another person called me a "strong, intuitive, directed genius"!

This work is my passion, and as I am sure you struggle with from time to time, sometimes I have a hard time believing what I do is "good enough". Confirmation that I AM helping is such a remarkable gift.

I recently asked on Facebook what people's favourite compliment they ever received was. The feedback was fantastic - I think hearing what compliments have meant the most to people is very reflective of what is important to them. So, in light of that, I would love to hear what compliment you have received that meant a great deal to you. Please here and let me know the compliment that you received that has meant the most to you!

Loving you in a way only a Goal Ninja can!

Kristi Shmyr

Becoming A Ninja At Life

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:19:36 +0100

This blog post was written by one of my Goal Ninja participants, Roberta Shepherd. I thought it was lovely and wanted to share!

I had the complete pleasure of being a participant in Kristi's fall Goal Ninjas program, and I say with complete confidence and excitement that it changed my life! Let me tell you how.

First of all, I discovered that I'm not exactly in line with my true passion. In fact, I had even convinced myself that I "don't really identify with the word passion" - what a bunch of bollocks! I certainly DO identify with the word passion, I just hadn't aligned myself with something that makes me feel more passionate than anything else! By Kristi's skilled facilitation and questioning, as well as the processes that are presented through the Goal Ninjas program, I was able to discover where my true passion lies. Now, knowing what really entices passion within me, I can actively pursue that.

Secondly, I've been pursuing ongoing activities to change mental programs that I have that are no longer conducive to my personal success and advancement. These activities are designed to establish new mental programs that are positive and that contribute to my creating the life that I really desire instead of that which I formerly believed I deserved - far less than the best! One of these activities is called evidence journaling and here's how it works: every day for 90-days (new habits, including habitual thinking, should be established by practice over a 90-day period), I am recording evidence to prove the following new beliefs: 1) I am abundant, 2) I am attractive, 3) I am valuable, 4) I am worthwhile, and 5) I am complete (whole, perfect and complete just the way that I am). Amazing things are happening. I am pulling away from undermining thoughts and behaviors and finding all the more evidence to illustrate that leading an enriched and fulfilling life is my divine birth right! Moreover, I am actually beginning to embody the fact that I deserve the absolute best that IS available to me in this universe.

As far as I'm concerned, these are amazing and incredibly impactful paradigm shifts that may not have happened (or at least not as soon) had I not participated in the Goal Ninjas program. I believe that everyone deserves to know that they are worthy of the very best the world has to offer. I also strongly believe that each and every person who thinks otherwise of themselves or who isn't seeming to achieve what they really want or who's just plain unhappy can't afford NOT to pursue the Goal Ninjas program. And...I really don't care if I come across as being biased since Kristi is my friend and colleague - that's how fired up I am about what Goal Ninjas has to offer!

If you want to read more about the concepts of Goal Ninjas, check out my recent column in SEE Magazine: Un-Google Your Mind, or, if you want to know more about the program, check out goalninjas.com. If you'd like to sign up for the program, which I, obviously, highly encourage you to do, please contact Kristi at: kristi@goalninjas.com.

Happy 2011 everyone! Here's to your becoming a ninja at life!

Guest Blogger Roberta Shepherd

Be your own Hero

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:15:01 +0100

I just got back from a retreat in Scottsdale, Arizona. I jumped BIG the last quarter of 2010 and landed in a year-long mastermind/mentorship program, investing MANY thousands of dollars in ME and my big dreams. This retreat was the first of a year of pushing my expectations of myself and the number of people I can serve beyond what is comfortable into the realm of transformational, where I love to be.

While there, I was discussing my program, Goal Ninjas, in a small mastermind within the larger group. The group began to discuss the name: Goal Ninjas. Because I primarily work with women, it was suggested that I should change the name as

"women do not identify with being the warrior; they long, instead, to be the princess, and to be rescued".

I was shocked and, to be honest, offended by this idea. Is this really what women deeply, at their essence, want?

I sure hope not.

My whole life I have prided myself on being tough, resilient, motivated, and independent. I am fiercely passionate about creating the life I want. Yes, I have had issues with being rescued by my family, as the "baby", but there is nothing I long for more than to be successful, on my own terms and in my own right and by my own definitions. The thought of waiting for someone to bring me my dreams is foreign to me. I ... well, I just Do Not Compute.

Women, are you waiting to be rescued, or are you ready to be your own hero?

Does your life depend on whether or not your prince arrives, or are you tackling the dragon all on your own?

I sure hope you are with me on this, ladies (gents too of course). Be your own hero - be the creator of your OWN kick-ass life.

Climb down your own damn hair, Rapunzel.

Kristi Shmyr,

Goal Ninja!

p.s. if you want help, not rescue, in creating the Kick Ass Life you Crave,check out www.goalninjas.com/gifts for some free gifts to get you started.

Value of a Life

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:12:36 +0100

What would you do to save your own life?

Let me answer that question - you would do almost anything.

You would walk across coals, swim through sharks, lift cars, wrestle alligators, and do all number of other terrifying feats to reach the other side, where you heart still beats and your brain still lives.

And yet ask someone to do ANYTHING to live the life they actually WANT to live, and you will be met with more resistance than ... um ... well, you will meet a great deal of resistance, the kind for which no metaphor can possibly convey.

Why are we so desperate to save our life if we don't even enjoy LIVING it?

So I ask you - what are you doing today to make your life not just continue, but passionate and LIVED?

Live, damn you, before my head explodes!

Kristi Shmyr
Goal Ninja, and advocate of a BIG LIFE!

Jump THEN learn to fly!

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:11:03 +0100

I met a new friend recently who gave such a wonderful example of my goal getting philosophy of "Jump, THEN learn to fly". She went down to South America and found a health product that amazed her. She asked if they had it in North America - they didn't, but wanted a distributor. She offered to be the North American distributor, but they told her she needed to be an importer. She wasn't. Now here's the great part. Most people would have backed off and walked away. Not my new Goal Ninja Friend. She said she was, and then came back and Googled "How to Become an Importer"! She incorporated a name and voila! She was an importer with distributor rights to a product she believed in.

Now THAT'S how it's done!

Kristi Shmyr
Goal Ninja

Is there a success formula?

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:09:30 +0100

Learning the secrets and the "rules" of success is a passion of mine. I have spent the past 7 years studying, reading, listening and attending seminars on this topic, and hundreds of thousands of dollars and countless hours later, here are some of the things I have figured out:

1. You need a big "why" for any goal. This is your reason for doing what you do, and this reason has to be big enough to get you out of bed, and keep you working when you "don't feel like it". Without this, you get temporarily motivated, excited and passionate, but it will never last. You will set goals, New Years' Resolutions, and make promises to yourself, but you won't have the will to keep going when that initial burst of conviction wears off.

2. You need to understand your reasons for NOT wanting to achieve.
Sounds strange, but our mind does not keep us from success to be mean; there is always a benefit your subconscious mind sees to stay exactly as you are, without your goal. Finding out what that is and resolving it is critical to your success.

3. The best way to tell your future is to create it.

I see no reason to leave the content of you future up to chance. If you really want to achieve success, you need a very clear image of how you define that success. What does it look like, feel like, and sound like? Don’t limit yourself, because there are possibilities you could not even imagine from where you currently are, but get an idea. Since energy cannot be created nor destroyed, everything you want already exists; it simply needs to change form. Hold that image long enough and it will be drawn to you as you move towards it.

4. Act.

Notice I said it will be drawn to you as you move towards it. I truly believe the universe can only do for you what it can do through you; waiting for your dreams to rain down from the sky will leave you waiting a great deal. Get clear and focused and then take inspired action, huge action, that makes your dreams inevitable.

5. Never stop readjusting and realigning.

Success, like life, is never static. It will require you to be dynamic and changeable. Our knowledge doubles every 3 years, so you CANNOT keep doing what you have always done and expect to even stay the same; if you refuse to evolve, you are not only refusing to grow, you are actually DE-volving. Realign your goals and your actions with your purpose constantly. And embrace change; it is, ironically, the only constant.

6. Practice, and then simply let go and trust.

Success requires practice. Just as working out for 5 days for 1 minute will not transform your body, inconsistent action and focus on your goals will not transform your life. You need to bring structure and order to any area that you want to be successful in. After that, comes the easiest and yet most difficult task – letting go and trusting that what you desire is already coming.

This work is my passion. If you resonate with this Success Formula and want to learn more, I invite you to check out www.goalninjas.com /gifts
You can get free gifts there and learn more about how to achieve success!

Goal Ninja Love!

Kristi Shmyr
Goal Ninja